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A White Knight’s Story by Anna Alexandrova, Russia
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Hettie had a few Reservations by Amelia Walker, Australia
In the Eye of the Beholder by Toyin Sokefun, Nigeria
Unfolding by Lone Mørch, Denmark
Reclamation by Cheryl Cabrera, United States
Yo animal by Maria Adela Diaz, United States
Since flies supposedly don't like to settle on the blue by Shirin Kouladjie, Iran
The Room by Amal Kenawy, Egypt
I Want to Have Your Baby (film) by Caroline Koebel, United States
I Am a Beauty by Nassrin Nasser, Iran
Spectacles by Clare Yow, Canada
Luis y Fla by Flavia Da Rin, Argentina
Summer Blossom by Nathalia Orozco, Mexico
Diary by Anna Soler Cepriá, Spain
Self Portrait by Suzanna Carlota Schlemm , Brazil
Aquarela by Ivani Castilho, Brazil
Cartas Marcadas by Eliane Bettocchi, Brazil
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Para Besarte y Acariciarte Mejor by Jessica Lagunas, Guatemala
A photographic series of people in Central and Eastern Europe by Lucia Nimcova, Slovakia


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Soaked in the Bath of Desire by Shen Ling, China
Puzzle Series by Leticia Bernaus, Argentina
Family Album by Katerina Otcenaskova-Richtr, Czech Republic
Forbidden Love by Stella Nanni, Brazil
Wedlock by Manal Al-Dowayan, Saudi Arabia
Dirty Tricks with Rok and Mrs. Baskar by Ivanka Apostolova, Macedonia
Breaking barriers by Marie-Joe Raidy, Lebanon
The Bride's Tears by Aimée Boukary, Niger
Verité by Karen Rigby, United States
Two young women migrants by Indira Endaya, Philippines, the
The Kiga Hug by Amanda Tumusiime, Uganda
She Will Belong by Eva Kanana Mabura, Kenya
Positively Romantic by Monique Tondoi Wanjala, Kenya
My Sister by Annette Kristiansen, Norway
Friends by April Livesley, Australia
Illusory Image by Chen Qiulin, China
The Rainbow Generation by Penny Montford, United Kingdom
Crossing Monologues by Merike Sule-Trubert, Estonia
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Excerpt from Lovesong by Nikki Gemmell, Australia
Film Clip from Before Sunset by Julie Delpy, France
Untitled by Jessica Gomula , United States
Between the Covers by Nicky Newman, South Africa
Ardhanarishwara by Charuvi Agrawal, India
Being True to the Most Important Partnership in A Our Life – Ourselves by Christine Arylo, United States
One is Not the Loneliest Number by Jolivette N Mecenas, United States
I go looking for you in places I know by Madeleine Mullett , United Kingdom
Dear Letta (film) by Brooke White and Susie Meserve , United States
Celtic Raag by Pireeni Sundaralingam, Sri Lanka
Waltz For a Night by Julie Delpy, France
Old Maid by Vivian Nocum Limpin, Philippines, the
Wahad Areese, Please! (A Husband, Please!) by Zena el-Khalil, Lebanon
A Wind Untamed by Lada Karitskaya, Russia
Morning After by Ruby Xuequn Pan, Singapore
Assisted Marriage by Sadaf Siddique, India


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Bellydancers by Jaime Koebel, Canada
Mother with Child by Sui Shuxia, China
New Colonies by Swarupa Shah, India
Mother by Anna Wiśniewska, Poland
Lack of Significant Difference by Jessica Loseby, United Kingdom
Expecting (from The Modern Jewish Girl’s Guide to Guilt) by Rebecca Walker, United States
Swiggy by Ali Smith, United States
Hope by Andrea Chung, United States
Lily Pads by Christine Luksza-Paravicini, United States
Now by Achinoam Nini, Israel
Mamalas by Valentina Campos, Bolivia
Momma Love by Ali Smith, United States
Beautiful Bellies by Christine Luksza-Paravicini, United States


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The Baker’s Bag Project by Karin Heisecke, Germany
In All My Dreams by Rovena Agolli, Albania
Kenya Body Maps by Barbara Kimegisha (TICAH & Point Of View), Kenya
Thailand Body Maps by Muei (TICAH & Point of View), Thailand
India Body Maps by Gouri Narayan (TICAH & Point of View), India
Badmash Animation on HIV/AIDS by Breakthrough, India
Maati by Breakthrough, India
Forging a New Path by Monica da Silva (World Pulse Magazine), South Africa
Dreamings by Jessica Horn, United Kingdom
Excerpt from With Faith Eroded by Margarita Aguilar, Mexico
I am by Marcella Cross, Canada
Before the Hockey Game by Kathryn Fischer, United States
Love, Labor, Loss: A film on obstetric fistula in Niger (film) by Lisa Russell, United States
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Delicate Veil
Travis A. Everett
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So I’m standing there,
dick in hand, going back and forth
between running
and getting it over with.

Perhaps this fear
is one stall left of rational,
yet, it’s persisted
since that day I took a leak
while seeking a way
to say ‘piss’ that doesn’t dribble
cliché, or drip soccer mom,
when I thought about how funny it would be
to pee all over the feet
of the guy to my left and run
while he’s trying to finish and put it away.

I’m not sure if that was the “man” in me
speaking, or another voice,
but it sure seems like a penile
stream-of-dominance thing to do
and it scares the piss out of me
that millennia of evolution, if just socially,
are such a delicate veil,

especially when the definition of masculinity
that rapes and pillages
within the volumes of my flesh
isn’t in a language “real men” speak.
So I’m standing there, dick in hand

wondering if the other guy
will utter ‘conquest’
in some primitive language
all over my feet
and absolutely terrified
I might understand him.


***

Once upon a time coming of age was defined by how well you faced and overcame a painful or challenging task. Coming of age today isn’t defined by a pre-set ritual; instead it’s about taking in a large volume of conflicting information and viewpoints and sorting through it to define our own, individual sense of manhood. It's a confusing process, and easy to get lost in, but it's a healthy thing. Manhood is no longer defined by a prescribed set of ideals, but by whatever we make of it.

This is a poem about the conflict between history and the present, between our physical manhood and the idea of manhood we carry in our heads. Stereotypes start somewhere, so there usually is some degree of truth behind them, and our body, with its millennia of evolution, doesn't really care about our philosophical thoughts on manhood. I don't want to be that stereotypical primal man, but he rears up his head from time to time. I still have to figure out how to come to terms with him, and this poem chronicles an instant in that struggle.

Women’s rights are an issue that still needs to be addressed worldwide, but women aren’t the only ones being held back by outdated stereotypes and traditions. Men are subjugated to stereotypes and expectations as well, they just tend to be more favorable ones. If you don't live up to society’s expectations of you as a man, you're in the same boat with all of the women who don't subscribe to their gender stereotype.

I want women to read this poem. I want men to read the poem and be encouraged to question their own perceptions, or maybe to just be encouraged, knowing someone else feels the same way. I want to make people think, and laugh, and feel uneasy all at the same time.
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Clinton Findlay
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ahhhh, gender differences.... annoying!
I recently saw the IMOW (online International Museum of Women) February conversation/collection… "Young Men".
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