Stories


Self
Holy Angel by Anna Rikkinen, Finland
A White Knight’s Story by Anna Alexandrova, Russia
Growing Roots by Oksana Baiul, Ukraine
Unfolding Posture by Heba Farid, Egypt
Hettie had a few Reservations by Amelia Walker, Australia
In the Eye of the Beholder by Toyin Sokefun, Nigeria
Unfolding by Lone Mørch, Denmark
Reclamation by Cheryl Cabrera, United States
Yo animal by Maria Adela Diaz, United States
Since flies supposedly don't like to settle on the blue by Shirin Kouladjie, Iran
The Room by Amal Kenawy, Egypt
I Want to Have Your Baby (film) by Caroline Koebel, United States
I Am a Beauty by Nassrin Nasser, Iran
Spectacles by Clare Yow, Canada
Luis y Fla by Flavia Da Rin, Argentina
Summer Blossom by Nathalia Orozco, Mexico
Diary by Anna Soler Cepriá, Spain
Self Portrait by Suzanna Carlota Schlemm , Brazil
Aquarela by Ivani Castilho, Brazil
Cartas Marcadas by Eliane Bettocchi, Brazil
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Interview with Amina Lawal by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Para Besarte y Acariciarte Mejor by Jessica Lagunas, Guatemala
A photographic series of people in Central and Eastern Europe by Lucia Nimcova, Slovakia


Relationships
Soaked in the Bath of Desire by Shen Ling, China
Puzzle Series by Leticia Bernaus, Argentina
Family Album by Katerina Otcenaskova-Richtr, Czech Republic
Forbidden Love by Stella Nanni, Brazil
Wedlock by Manal Al-Dowayan, Saudi Arabia
Dirty Tricks with Rok and Mrs. Baskar by Ivanka Apostolova, Macedonia
Breaking barriers by Marie-Joe Raidy, Lebanon
The Bride's Tears by Aimée Boukary, Niger
Verité by Karen Rigby, United States
Two young women migrants by Indira Endaya, Philippines, the
The Kiga Hug by Amanda Tumusiime, Uganda
She Will Belong by Eva Kanana Mabura, Kenya
Positively Romantic by Monique Tondoi Wanjala, Kenya
My Sister by Annette Kristiansen, Norway
Friends by April Livesley, Australia
Illusory Image by Chen Qiulin, China
The Rainbow Generation by Penny Montford, United Kingdom
Crossing Monologues by Merike Sule-Trubert, Estonia
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Lighting a Candle by Hafsat Abiola, Nigeria
Excerpt from Lovesong by Nikki Gemmell, Australia
Film Clip from Before Sunset by Julie Delpy, France
Untitled by Jessica Gomula , United States
Between the Covers by Nicky Newman, South Africa
Ardhanarishwara by Charuvi Agrawal, India
Being True to the Most Important Partnership in A Our Life – Ourselves by Christine Arylo, United States
One is Not the Loneliest Number by Jolivette N Mecenas, United States
I go looking for you in places I know by Madeleine Mullett , United Kingdom
Dear Letta (film) by Brooke White and Susie Meserve , United States
Celtic Raag by Pireeni Sundaralingam, Sri Lanka
Waltz For a Night by Julie Delpy, France
Old Maid by Vivian Nocum Limpin, Philippines, the
Wahad Areese, Please! (A Husband, Please!) by Zena el-Khalil, Lebanon
A Wind Untamed by Lada Karitskaya, Russia
Morning After by Ruby Xuequn Pan, Singapore
Assisted Marriage by Sadaf Siddique, India


Motherhood
Bellydancers by Jaime Koebel, Canada
Mother with Child by Sui Shuxia, China
New Colonies by Swarupa Shah, India
Mother by Anna Wiśniewska, Poland
Lack of Significant Difference by Jessica Loseby, United Kingdom
Expecting (from The Modern Jewish Girl’s Guide to Guilt) by Rebecca Walker, United States
Swiggy by Ali Smith, United States
Hope by Andrea Chung, United States
Lily Pads by Christine Luksza-Paravicini, United States
Now by Achinoam Nini, Israel
Mamalas by Valentina Campos, Bolivia
Momma Love by Ali Smith, United States
Beautiful Bellies by Christine Luksza-Paravicini, United States


Health
The Baker’s Bag Project by Karin Heisecke, Germany
In All My Dreams by Rovena Agolli, Albania
Kenya Body Maps by Barbara Kimegisha (TICAH & Point Of View), Kenya
Thailand Body Maps by Muei (TICAH & Point of View), Thailand
India Body Maps by Gouri Narayan (TICAH & Point of View), India
Badmash Animation on HIV/AIDS by Breakthrough, India
Maati by Breakthrough, India
Forging a New Path by Monica da Silva (World Pulse Magazine), South Africa
Dreamings by Jessica Horn, United Kingdom
Excerpt from With Faith Eroded by Margarita Aguilar, Mexico
I am by Marcella Cross, Canada
Before the Hockey Game by Kathryn Fischer, United States
Love, Labor, Loss: A film on obstetric fistula in Niger (film) by Lisa Russell, United States
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Relationships
On-line dating, ‘semi’-arranged love marriages, alternative lifestyles… The world is changing at a rapid pace, and it is dramatically affecting the way young women handle the subjects of courtship, marriage, family, and friendship. For example, the average age at first marriage for young women in 1970 was 21.4; by 2000, it was 25.5. Join the Conversation»

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Images of motherhood have inspired beautiful pieces of art, both across cultures and throughout time. The entries we received on this topic are no less filled with wonder. But young women today are also thinking about some new and interesting questions with respect to topic of childbearing. Join the Conversation»

Health
Our closest relationships can also be the site of serious health risks and hazards. Join the Conversation»
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To Purchase a DVD of the ENTIRE 30 MINUTE FILM  and to Purchase the related 400 PAGE BOOK  which charts the childhoods and follows the trajectories of the teen mothers and fathers both before and after the time period that the film covers, please visit:
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Too young to vote, most teen parents have no political voice, and when it comes to important debates about the very circumstances that define their lives, to a large extent, they remain silent, and excluded. 

Whenever teen parenthood is filtered through the media, so often the national spotlight remains fixed on the moral and theoretical battles waged between liberals and conservatives.  Each side comes to the table armed with competing agendas regarding sex education, contraception, abortion, family values, and the relationship between Church and State.   In contrast, most pregnant and parenting teens remain sequestered on the fringes of society, represented as statistics, deprived of a forum to refute those who stereotype them; positioned helplessly as scapegoats; and powerless to contradict those who have written them off as ignorant, irresponsible youngsters with doomed futures.  

Motivated by my desire to give teen parents a platform, I made a documentary film and subsequently spent four years researching and writing a book, Growing Up Fast. Accustomed to being neglected, criticized, marginalized, ignored and underestimated, the teen mothers I worked with craved recognition of their thoughts, validation of their feelings, and acknowledgement of their hard, often unappreciated work in their multiple roles as parents, students, and low-wage employees They wanted their views to be heard and taken into account; they wanted respect; and they wanted their presence and their children's needs to be taken seriously.

The first documentary film I ever made was about children and imagination.  That experience left me fascinated by the ways in which kids alternate between functioning as sponges absorbing the adult world around them, and acting as mirrors, reflecting the adult world back uncompromisingly, with all of its conflicts and defects-yet also with a certain innocence, hopefulness, romanticism and idealism.  As I worked with teen mothers, the sponge and mirror analogy came up in my mind as a framework for understanding why this particular population was so often the center of controversy and so frequently on the receiving end of scorn, resentment, and blame for so many of society's ills.  While I recognized that many taxpayers resented shouldering the economic burden of teen parenthood and its related consequences, I also recognized that negative reactions to teen parents ran way beyond purely economic parameters into moral and emotional territory. 

The body of a pregnant teenager is provocative precisely because its very shape and the implications of that shape-like a mirror-clearly reflect aspects of American life that many would prefer not to see.  The pregnant body of a teenage girl silently spells out what society does not want to verbalizeSexual abuse can be hidden.  Domestic and dating violence can be hidden.  Alcoholism, substance abuse and mental illness can be hidden.  The identities of the children of the two million Americans who are incarcerated can be hidden.  While all these insidious risk factors and forms of household dysfunction that are linked to teen parenthood can be hidden, denied or pushed out of immediate consciousness under most circumstances, at eight months, the body of a pregnant teenager articulates a powerful, highly visible, unequivocal reality that is difficult-if not impossible to ignore and this has incredible implications, economically and socially, that most people would rather not confront.

Toni Morrison addresses the complex dynamics of society's negative reaction to teen parenthood in her stunning first novel, The Bluest Eye.  In the following passage, the narrator talks about Pecola, a young girl who became pregnant after being raped by her father:               

"We tried to see her without looking at her, and never, never went near. Not because she was absurd, or repulsive, or because we were frightened, but because we had failed her."

 In her autobiography, A Backward Glance, Edith Wharton recalls the scandalous reception of her novel Summer which was set in Berkshire County and dealt frankly with teen pregnancy and surrounding issues: 

"Summer was received with indignant denial by many reviewers and readers; not the least vociferous were the New Englanders who had for years sought the reflection of local life in the rose and lavender pages of their favorite authoresses -----and had forgotten to look into Hawthorne's."

 These quotes say so much about why people often look the other way and dissociate from the issue of teen motherhood.   Often it is not just a statement about the individual teenage girl who has chosen to become a mother; it can also be interpreted as a statement about the society that all of us play a role in creating and sustaining both directly and indirectly through the officials we elect to represent our interests.

David Shipler's acclaimed book The Working Poor is subtitled "Invisible in America" and those three words get to the very heart of why videotaping and photographing the subjects of my book was an essential part of my research.  I photographed and videotaped all the main subjects of my book and used their real names because my book aims to unmask teen parents who are often obscured by statistics, lumped into categories, used as scapegoats and misunderstood.  It's too easy to dismiss an abstract, impersonal number or a character that is a composite of several people with their identifying characteristics obscured-and who therefore, is not quite real. 

The more real and concrete people are, the easier it is to identify with them and the harder it is to dismiss them.  The human element can be quite powerful.  By interspersing photographs throughout the text and by using real names, I was trying to break through boundaries of intolerance and ignorance to create an empathic connection that lessened the distance between reader and subject.  I wanted the unifying force of human compassion to override the class lines along which American society is so sharply divided.  Through the book and documentary, I wanted to bring these young parents out of the shadows to confront the adults who are shaping and influencing the world that their children and grandchildren will inherit.

For more information please visit www.growingupfast.com

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Thank you Betty Kehrle for the very kind words. I went to therapy the whole last year to learn new ways on how to deal with my mother. But, I'm taking baby steps with her, but I know things will change once I leave California. Like you...
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